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November 27, 2016

10 Ways to Get out of a Rut & Feel Motivated Again

How to feel motivated again | Motivation tips | Inspiration | Productivity | Creativity | Career advice | Productivity

The idea behind today’s post comes courtesy of Pia, a reader who recently reached out to me. Rather than replying directly, however, I’ve decided (with her permission) to publish her email and share my response with you all. Why? Because we all get stuck in a rut sometimes, whether it’s in work, life or otherwise. From someone who’s been there, here’s how to slowly but surely start loving your life again.


Hi Bianca,

I read your inspiring post `Feeling Helpless…’ and decided to write you a message.

I am a 33 year-old girl from Brazil who has lived in London for 6 years. I love this city and my personal life but I am unsatisfied with my career as marketing executive for an hedge fund publishing company and I feel pretty hopeless sometimes.

However, a few months ago I decided to make a few changes in my life. First, I signed up for a course in nutrition and realised that I can’t spent another 2 years working in a corporate environment and being stuck in an office for the rest of my life.

I used to consider myself a creative person. I studied journalism with the intention of writing about culture and literature and fiction. I used to dream about stories…I even wrote a book for YA. But I lost all that passion and am not too sure how to reinstate the same feeling in my heart.

I feel inadequate and useless so I can’t contribute with any ideas to the meetings, activities at work. I tend to blame myself for that all the time, but I am starting to realise that the reason I am not creative enough at work is not because I am stupid, it’s simply because I don’t enjoy what I do.

I want to change but I am too scared – do you ever feel the same? I have decided to make some changes anyway. So, alongside with the course, I am volunteering and practising yoga every week. I am in love more and more with health, nutrition, writing, meditation and yoga and would love to change my career to something related to one of those things. I am just too scared to make this change happen… 

Would you recommend me something to achieve my goals and make this change happen?

Today you seeded some hope inside me.  For your words of wisdom, thank you.

Pia


Oh, Pia.

I have been there. Here’s what to do:

  1. Repeat after me: Your life isn’t bad, you’re just bored. A terrible day doesn’t mean a terrible life. An uninspiring job doesn’t mean everything else is hopeless. Repeat, repeat, repeat. 
  2. Read Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear. This book changed my life. When I read it, I hadn’t written a word for eight years. Like you, I had lost my voice and had no idea how to get it back. But Big Magic gave me the courage to start again. It taught me that being creatively fearful is not only ok, but often advantageous. Read it. Everyone should read it. I promise you won’t regret it.
  3. Start a side hustle that’s good for your soul. You say you love yoga. Great! Start a blog about what it’s like to be a beginner. Start taking transcendental meditation classes.Start teaching yoga to your friends via Skype (I’m serious). Just start. Small at first, and take it one tiny step a day. Having a creative outlet that’s entirely your own, with no external pressure, is so important.
  4. Reclaim your commute and lunch break. Shift the focus away from your mundane day job, and on to your extra-curricular activities. Tuesday, for example, doesn’t have to just be another boring day in the office. Feed your mind with inspiring books and podcasts on your morning commute. Be conscious about how you spend your lunch breaks, too. Instead of getting the same old lunch at the same old place, take a full hour to walk, write and see where your brain takes you. Don’t count the hours, make the hours count.
  5. Accept that circumstances change and so do you. Instead of searching for your old self, focus on the next season of your life. Like autumn, there’s beauty in renewal. Parts you will wither and die, but in doing so, they make way for more beautiful things to grow and take shape. Accept the person you once were, wish her well, (hell, mourn her if you have to!) and move on. Trust me. You’re evolving and changing every day without even realising it. Embrace the change.
  6. Chase your curiosity. Immerse yourself in whatever it is that interests you that week. The beauty of living in a big city like London is that there are a bunch of free events you can go to. Fill your calendar with them (EventBrite is a great place to start). Having things to look forward to is essential.
  7. Focus on the process, not the end goal. Take it from high-performance athletes, the key to feeling motivated and getting yourself out of a rut is focusing on the process, not the end goal. Too many goals and expectations make you miserable. Focusing on the process of improving your life, one step at a time, will make you feel much more motivated.
  8. Change your job. ASAPThe reason you’re unable to contribute isn’t because you’re not capable. You’re more than capable. But you are in the wrong job and in the wrong environment. After all, inspiration and ideas don’t appear in places that don’t deserve them. My advice? Leave. ASAP. Start making steps towards the life you want, even if it’s simply getting another job that’s slightly more aligned with your core values. It won’t be without sacrifice. It won’t be without having to save some money. It won’t be without uncertainty. But if it’s the life that’s intended for you, it will work out.
  9. Know that motivation ebbs and flows. Sometimes you’re going to feel determined and other times you won’t. It happens to all of us, and when it does get out of the house and out of your mind. Go for a walk. Ask for help. Know you’re not alone.
  10. Be kind, be easy and take your time. You are coming home to yourself.

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7 Comments

  • Nurul

    Hello, Bianca. Thank you for this 🙂

    November 28, 2016 at 10:20 am Reply
  • Walkiria

    I loved how this post came about. Very interesting and inspiring to read the email and the blog post which will benefit us all, at times when we find it hard or get motivated. It reminds me of Clarissa Pinkola Estes in Women who run with wolves when she quotes ‘it is worse to stay where one doesn’t belong at all than to wonder about lost for a while looking for the psychic and soulful kinship one requires’

    November 29, 2016 at 12:47 am Reply
  • Janie

    I start feeling that way too a couple month ago and I start reading you are a badass by Jen Sincero! It truly helped me see thing differently and enjoying little thing in life! This blog post and this email are the cherry I needed on my Sunday! Thank you for all those tips and I can wait to put them into work! Thank you

    November 29, 2016 at 1:24 pm Reply
  • Kate

    A beautifully inspiration piece of writing! I’ve found your advice so helpful and applicable to my own goals too. I’ll definitely be checking out Elizabeth Gilberts book for sure!

    VioletDaffodils
    xx

    March 19, 2017 at 12:02 am Reply
  • Kate

    A beautifully inspirational piece of writing! I’ve found your advice so helpful and applicable to my own goals too. I’ll definitely be checking out Elizabeth Gilberts book for sure!

    VioletDaffodils
    xx

    March 19, 2017 at 12:02 am Reply
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  • Abbi

    Hi Bianca. This is the first post I’ve read on your blog and oh my goodness, I am SO relieved that others feel like this too and that I am not alone. I myself am stuck in a rut career-wise at the moment and all of these points are truly valid and, well, to the point! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I look forward to seeing more writing from you!
    Abbi x
    http://www.skullcherry.co.uk

    March 21, 2017 at 6:42 pm Reply
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